Bible reading: Proverbs 25:1-28

“Don’t demand an audience with the king or push for a place among the great.
It’s better to wait for an invitation to the head table than to be sent away in public disgrace”
[Proverbs 25:6-7 NLT]

If you have a gift or ability, then wait for it to be recognised and don’t push yourself forward to be seen or gain the attention of others. If you push yourself forward or invite yourself then you might find you become an unwanted embarrassment or even experience disgrace.

If you feel that God has given you a particular gift or ability, then first commit that gift to the Lord. Don’t be concerned if people don’t recognise your gift – that is God’s responsibility, not yours. Work at that gift to improve it but remember that the Bible says, “Promotion comes from the Lord” [Psalm 75:6]. The context of this verse is of boasting and self-effort and is therefore in the realm of the flesh and not of living in the Spirit.

Have you wondered why it is that people push themselves forward and try to gain acceptance especially where it involves well-known people or being seen to be successful? Perhaps it has to do with a deep-seated feeling of rejection, whether the person is conscious of it or not. There was a time when I so longed to be loved and accepted that I would do anything to gain approval. To be with people considered successful would give me a kind of kudos or prestige. I longed to be successful so that I too would find acceptance. It was all about performance, not grace and a compensation for deep wounds of rejection.

Little by little God has healed me of those deep wounds of rejection as I have given him the right to change my heart, attitudes and motives. There were times when a very powerful word would bring change. One such word came from a book by Oswald Chambers, who wrote, “Maturity is having nothing left to prove!” What freedom came in that statement – I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Another word came from the apostle Paul, “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands.” How releasing is the ambition to lead a quiet life! Not limelight but quietness! I don’t even have to be successful – just rest in Jesus and walk with Him. It is then that He opens the doors and takes me where he wants me to go rather than me having to push myself forward.


Everyone experiences rejection of some kind. Jesus was the most rejected man who ever lived. Why is the way we handle rejection so important to growth in our Christian walk?

Why do you think that forgiveness is so important in healing the wounds of rejection?